I have a good life. I have great parents. But, I am part of what the social work world calls a ”blended family”. This simply means that the man who is married to my mom is my step-dad and he brought with him my step-sister. Now, it must be known that I have always considered him my dad…I love this man who has always gone to great lengths to provide for us. This may seem odd to some of you, but this may be due to the fact that I have never met or even seen a picture of my biological father.
Now it just so happens that I was exploring on the wonderful world of Facebook. One of my friends is a photographer (Haley Lamb…shameless plug 
) and has some amazing photos! In one photo, I saw a very happy family sharing joy with each other. But what caught my eye was the family name under one of the photos. .I sat back in my chair and staired in wonder because the name I saw used to be my last name before I legally changed it to take on my dad’s at the age of 12 or so. And the wheels in my head started to turn with questions…”Could this be my father?” Still with me? Now, this name just happens to be a little more than the average last name. Until now, I had never seen or heard it repeated. So I knew this was probably something to look into. I typed up a message to send to my friend to ask for any other information, but I struggled to hit the send button. “Was this intruding on his privacy? Did I have any right to seek him out?” Crazy mix of emotions!!! Welp, I did exercise my finger and hand muscle to make the move to send it.
A little while later, I received a message back that gave me his name. I do know that this man’s first name is not my father’s, so I got up the nerve to ask my mom if this man was related. She told me that he is my uncle! Weird…
I have not pursued anything further since knowing this. So, what would you do with this strange revelation? Comment if you please
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Tiffany,
I KNOW my curiosity would win out in the end. It may be more than I would have bargained for, but I just couldn’t not try some form of contact. I have friends who have been in the same situation as you and DID make contact and it was not a good turnout, but at least then, they knew. Anyways, this is a deeply personal decision for you and I will pray for you
Jamie Wise
Wow, this is a tough one.
I would obviously pray about it 1st. You need to know if you seek him out he very possibly might reject you. I would send him a letter with a postal address inviting him to write back should he be interested.
I would develop a relationship on paper 1st before a possible meeting.
Also you would need to reassure your Dad Joe that he is and always will be your Dad but you are naturally curious about your birth father.
Lots to think about.
LOVE you!